Thursday, March 6, 2014

An Older Woman Ahead of You

An Older Woman Ahead of You

“There is an older woman up there ahead of you
That you ought to know
She looks somewhat like you
She has your eyes, your nose, your chin;
And whether she loves you 
or hates you, 
respects you or despises you
Whether she is angry or comfortable
Whether she is miserable or happy
Depends on you
For you have made her
She is you grown older.”

Sometime before the new year I was contemplating my life and things that I knew I needed to work on - so many things - where do I start? Many times I have thought at this age and time of my life I would be the faithful, gracious, kind, loving, courageous woman I wanted to become when I  copied this poem into my journal while serving my mission . . . and find myself so falling short of where I wanted to be forty years later.  I was talking to Heavenly Father about my shortcomings and what I thought I needed to work on~ so many things, it is sometimes overwhelming.

A few weeks later, sitting with some friends, one of them said she had been thinking a lot about being "Gracious" and asked us what we thought that meant.  We all chimed in and then the discussion changed.  A few weeks after that we were all together again and Paula told us that being gracious was still weighing on her mind and it was something she was working on, then she turned to me and said, "Sandy, I think of you as being someone who is gracious."  Well, after I pulled myself up off the floor, I remembered a prayer a few weeks prior to that and realized that Heavenly Father, was answering a prayer, just letting me know that I am at least headed in the right direction, even if I still have a long ways to go . . .


Saturday, January 25, 2014

Christmas Joys ~ 2013

*
Let us 
remember 
that the Christmas 
heart is a giving heart, 
a wide open heart that thinks
 of others first. The birth of the baby Jesus 
stands as the most significant event in all history, 
because it has meant the pouring  into a sick world the 
healing medicine of love which has transformed all manner of 
hearts for almost two thousand years...Underneath all the bulging 
bundles is this 
beating 
Christmas heart.
 - George Matthew Adams

Christmas was a joy this year.  Cori found a cabin with ten bedrooms that was big enough to fit all 32 of us, so we all got together in Duck Creek and enjoyed a few days of laughter, love, great food and lots of fun.
Danielle, Ally, Eden, Megan, Joshua and Mason
Aunt Megan had lots of crafts and fun things planned for the kids to do. We went sledding, played games with the children until time for bed.  Had a nightly devotional, tucked the kiddoes into bed, then stayed up until the wee hours playing games, laughing and talking.
Our lovely Christmas tree ~ with a sweet sign from Grace reminding all of us to remember the true meaning of Christmas is to love each other and be kind to everyone.

Looks like Santa tracked us down!
Christmas Eve ~ soft Christmas music, the lovely glow of the tree, the warmth of a fire, the gleeful teasing and laughter of  adult children playing games in the next room, my sweetheart sitting next to me and all the little ones, so excited for what's coming all tucked into bed . . . lovin' it!
 The Dads decided that they needed an alarm to let them know when the first child was out of bed on Christmas morn . . . it worked!
Joshua's stocking is almost as big as he is . . .
A view from the top . . . on Christmas morning
Brittany and Nadia
 It was these three babies first Christmas ~ Nadia, Anders and Jeffrey Jack (JJ)
Ethan and Anders

Grammie Sandy and JJ
Jesse, Kourtni, Eden, Damien, Ally, Ethan, Charlie and Joshua getting ready for the launch
 Grandpa Ray made rocket launchers for every family for Christmas ~ and they were a great hit!
Ally, Ethan and Joshua - "Where did it go?"
 Christmas Day was sunny and just right for rocket launching - all systems were GO!
James, Ally, Grace, Joshua and Cory
 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 launch!
Ally, Kourtnie, Damien, Grace, Charlie, Ray, Grant, Cori

Joshua's snow ball maker -you better run, Grammie Sandy!
Everyone pitched in and helped plan the menus, shopping, cooking, activities, cleaning and all that goes with a big get together.  We had such a great time together.  We love being together as a family. Cori made the comment, "I love being with you guys, you are my best friends!"  That was honey to my heart . . . I kept telling the children when they were little and arguing - someday you will be good friends!  It is such a joy to see that is true.   The 18 cousins have so much fun playing together. The older grandchildren, Jacob and Sydni are so great to include and play with the little ones and the children all adore them! Several of us made the comment that this was the best Christmas ever!  We stayed at the cabin until the day after Christmas, when we packed up and headed down to the condo in St George for a few days.

My heart is so full of gratitude for my dear companion and best friend, Raymond and six amazing children and their wonderful sweethearts, and eighteen beautiful grandchildren.  You add so much joy to my heart and I am so grateful for all of you. Most of all I am grateful for our Savior, whose love and light shines as a beacon to us all.

Sunday, October 6, 2013

A Personal Liahona

" There is not one of us but what God’s love has been expended upon. There is not one of us that He has not cared for and caressed. There is not one of us that He has not desired to save and that He has not devised means to save. There is not one of us that He has not given His angels charge concerning. We may be insignificant and contemptible in our own eyes and in the eyes of others, but the truth remains that we are children of God and that He has actually given His angels … charge concerning us, and they watch over us and have us in their keeping.”  
President Henry B Eyring quoting George Q Cannon, Sunday October 6, 2013

This is my favorite week-end, twice a year, when we get to hear from our dear prophet, President Thomas S. Monson, the apostles, and auxiliary leaders of the church.  I love this week-end and look forward to it for weeks - well, months really!  Sister J. T. in our ward gave a wonderful talk in Sacrament meeting about preparing for the upcoming General Conference. She said it "is our own personal Liahona."  I really liked that and feel that as I take notes during conference, there are things that I specifically need to work on , things that touch my soul and strengthen my testimony.  

So, what little * did I have in my notebook?  President Monson began by reminding us of the importance to reach out and share the wonderful news of the gospel with others and as we do so, we will be assisted as we act in faith.  He told us to Listen and Learn from the Spirit.  This was a recurring theme throughout the conference. He also taught us to make the Lord the center of our lives and if we do, we will emerge victorious. To try each day to become better than what we were the day before, to fill our homes with love and courtesy.


*Pray for opportunities to share my love and testimony of the Savior

Elder Robert D Hales taught us to how to get the most from General Conference.  He told us how each speaker is not assigned a specific topic, but each one fasts, prays, and ponders about the message he/she should give and follows the spirit's direction. Then as we listen with the spirit, pray to understand and ask how to apply that specific message to our lives, the spirit will teach us.  He said that when he is taking notes at conference, he doesn't write down what the speaker is saying, but the directions the spirit is giving him. 


 *The Living Christ - memorize it! 

Brother Soares talked about working on Christlike attributes each day of our lives, recognizing our weaknesses and and working to improve and make them strengths. 


*Try to be a little better each day. Convey feelings with love and patience.

Sister Carol Stephens talked about the importance of priesthood ordinances and how we need these covenants to fulfill our divine desitny.  She reminded us how generous Heavenly Father is with this divine power and personal revelation and that we all may benefit from these wonderful blessings.

Elder Dube taught the importance of going forward with faith, to learn from the past but to not live in it!

Elder Bednar talked about significant but suttle blessings in our lives that are sometimes overlooked such as contentment, increased capacity to do more with less.

*Cori has mentioned several times that it would be good to do a family blog about Tender Mercies . . . that came to my mind quite forcefully during Elder Bednar's talk - it would be nice to share those Windows of Heaven blessings with the family and since we are pretty spread out, that would be a great way to share things that strengthen  and help us.

President Packer talked about the only safe place to raise children in tody'a world is in a gospel centered home.  He taught that the scriptures hold the keys to spiritual protection.

*Renew my effort to read the scriptures daily

Elder Jeffrey Holland gave an amazing talk about Hope and depression  - Never lose faith in Heavenly Father , His love never changes, He is simply, always there.

Some common themes running through the conference: Strengthening marriage and family as well as the importance and influence of good women in the world, and the  power and blessings of the priesthood and the strength that comes through covenants and ordinances.

Elder R. Maynes talked about the strength we need to endure life's challenges and how our ability to endure is connected to the depth of our testimony.  

*Attend the temple more often

Elder Richard G Scott talked about the strength that we gain through the Atonement of the Savior.  He talked about the fathers of the Stripling Young Warriors and how they desired to protect their families, but because of past choices and covenants they had made, were unable to do so.  He talked about the power of the atonement, the humility of those fathers, the faith of those mothers and the courage of the young men to go forward in faith and miracles happened.

 *Fill your life with service to others.  

Elder David McKonkie gave a wonderful talk on teaching with the spirit.  He said it all begins with a testimony of the restoration of the gospel, then we need to seek revelation through prayer, scripture study and by living the commandments, and listening! (To the spirit and to our students) Prepare and let go and follow the guidance of the spirit.

So, I have my own personal Liahona for the next six months . .. . 
I've set my goals and I'm going forward with faith.